“…in Anne’s case all of the magic came from within her own self; she knew who she was and where she was going, and she worked her own transformation, no fairy godmother needed.
And this brings me back to what we, as the spouses and beloveds of our various gods, can take away from Anne’s story. Few of us come from wealthy or privileged families, most of us are not descended from royalty in any immediate or traceable way, only a handful have advanced degrees or high-powered careers, and although many of us are attractive or even beautiful (especially to our divine partners), I have yet to see any supermodel or movie star godspouses; the vast majority of us are fairly ordinary-looking–pretty like the real-life Mary Boleyn, perhaps, but not like Scarlett Johannson. Fortunately for us though, this is all besides the point, because each of us has our own special magic, our own “something” that we were born with, or endowed with by our gods, or otherwise chosen to carry forth into the world. Anne’s lesson is that anyone can think themselves ordinary and rise up to become someone extraordinary; anyone can defy the expectations of the world around them and win the heart of a king–or a god. But as Anne herself discovered, in order to reach our fullest potential, we can’t rely on the judgments of others, can’t rely on our mundane acquaintances or co-religionists to weigh our relative merits and dictate our path. We each carry our own special magic, but in order for that to really work for us we have to heed it, and heed the Word of our Beloved gods, rather than allowing ourselves to become distracted by the chorus of voices (including our own) that are always ready and waiting to put us back in our place.
Who the hell do we think we are? Like Anne, each of us needs to be ready with an answer to that question. And it had better be a cheeky, upstart sort of answer, because when you have the love of a king–or a god–the reply that seems to come too readily to so many of us (“nobody special”) is at best a cop-out, and at worst a blasphemy.””
Source: An ordinary girl: what godspouses can learn from Anne Boleyn | Wytch of the North
Now that Beth has said all the things in a serious way, I’ll post this:
Loki’s reaction whenever I’ve done the, “I’m just a girl” thing: “Saying shit like that reeks of impressing other people with your pious humility. It has fuckall to do with you and Me.”
Now, here’s what I find to be sticky sometimes – there are people who think that if you’re okay with your position (hubby, wife, consort, whatever) that you’ll somehow lose your sense of awe and respect for Them. I would politely disagree. Being comfortable and self-assured in your relationship status, whatever it may be will allow you to take the focus off of yourself (me me me omgs i feel so self-conscious! why am i here!) when you’re in Their presence and let you do the Work of the relationship.